When people act like individuals who take their time or are loose with plans are flakes I get irritated. My boyfriend gets treated like this a lot. He isn’t a flake. He’s just really laid back. Yes, sometimes it hurts him and he typically learns from those experiences. He’s just a very easy going person and doesn’t see the importance of showing up at a specific time or setting a specific date to do something. He’s a go with the flow type of guy and I’ve always been a scheduled type of girl. Being with him has helped me let go of the unhealthy aspects of that (like micromanaging my life).